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July 24th, 2006
HOW TO OVERCOME A FEARFUL AND SCARY
SITUATION
by Stan Popovich
All most everybody worries about what will happen
when they face a stressful and scary situation. The
prospect of not knowing what to do can be frightening.
As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions
on how to manage the fear of an upcoming situation.
The first thing a person can do is to visualize doing
the scary task in their mind. For instance, you and
your team have to play in the championship game in
front of a large group of people in the next few days.
Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing
the game in your mind. Imagine that you are playing
in front of a large audience. By playing the game
in your mind, you will be better prepared to perform
for real when the time comes. Self-Visualization is
a great way to reduce the fear and stress of a coming
situation.
Try to find the motivation from within before performing
the task. You will be more successful if you have
a solid reason for doing the task. If you are not
sure why you are doing a certain task, then the fear
will get the best of you. Having the motivation and
enthusiasm will help you to manage the fear and increase
your chances of success.
When encountering a scary situation that gets us
all upset, always remember to get all of the facts
of the given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent
us from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions.
By focusing on the facts, a person can rely on what
is reality and what is not.
Take it one step at a time. Don’t try to do
too much at the same time because you will be easily
overwhelmed. Take it slow and go at your own pace.
Remember that each day can provide us with different
opportunities to learn new things and that includes
learning how to deal with your problems. You never
know when the answers you are looking for will come
to your doorstep. We may be ninety-nine percent correct
in predicting the future, but all it takes is for
that one percent to make a world of difference.
No one can predict the future with one hundred percent
certainty. Even if the thing that you feared does
happen there are circumstances and factors that you
can’t predict which can be used to your advantage.
For instance, let’s say at your place of work
that you miss the deadline for a project you have
been working on for the last few months. Everything
you feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes
to your office and tells you that the deadline is
extended and that he forgot to tell you the day before.
This unknown factor changes everything. Remember:
we may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting
the future, but all it takes is for that one percent
to make a world of difference.
It is not easy to deal with the fear of the unknown,
however sometimes the fear can be worse than the situation.
If you have trouble managing your anxiety, then talk
to someone who can make you feel better.
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