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July 26th, 2006
LEARNING HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR OUT
OF CONTROL ANXIETIES
by Stan Popovich
Learning how to manage your out of control anxieties
can be extremely difficult. The first thing you need
to do is to seek the services of a professional and/or
counselor who can teach you how to manage your fears
and give you the help that you need. In the meantime,
here are some ways to cope with your fears and anxieties.
The first step is to take a deep breath and try to
find something to do to get your mind off of the problem.
A person could take a walk, listen to some music,
read the newspaper, watch TV, play on the computer
or do an activity that will give you a fresh perspective
on things. This will distract you from your current
problem. Most importantly, doing something will give
you the self- confidence that you can do your tasks
and that you can get through the rest of the day.
Remember that things change and events do not stay
the same. For instance, you may feel overwhelmed in
the mornings with your anxiety and feel that this
is how you will feel the rest of the day. This isn’t
correct. No one can predict the future with 100 Percent
accuracy. Even if the thing that you feared does happen
there are circumstances and factors that you can’t
predict which can be used to your advantage. You never
know when the help and answers you are looking for
will come to you.
Your anxiety and worry will decrease over time. Your
anxieties may seem intense at the moment, but that
won’t be like that forever. Your worry will
eventually decrease in the long run.
A good way to manage your worry is to challenge your
negative thinking with positive statements and realistic
thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your
fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking
yourself questions that will maintain objectivity
and common sense.
Be smart in how you deal with your fears and anxieties.
Do not try to tackle everything all at once. When
facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms
you with a lot of anxiety, break the task into a series
of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one
at a time will make the stress more manageable and
increases your chances of success.
In every anxiety related situation you experience,
begin to learn what works, what doesn’t work,
and what you need to improve on in managing your fears
and anxieties. For instance, you have a lot of anxiety
and you decide to play on the computer to help you
feel better. The next time you feel anxious you can
remind yourself that you got through it the last time
by playing on the computer. This will give you the
confidence to manage your anxiety in the future.
Remember that sometimes our worrying and fears can
make the problem even worse. Take things in stride
and try not focus too much on the problem. Patience,
persistence, education, and being committed in trying
to solve your problem will go along way in fixing
your problems.
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