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July 28th, 2006
FINDING AND OVERCOMING THE SOURCE
OF YOUR FEARS
by Stan Popovich
A sure way to overcoming your fears and anxieties
is in finding the source of your fears and being able
to manage it. In dealing with any kinds of fears or
anxieties, try to learn what is the real source of
your fears and anxieties. Knowing what is causing
your anxieties can go a long way in finding the solution.
A person can find the source of his or her own fears
by doing some self-evaluation and also by talking
to a professional. Asking yourself questions such
as: “Why am I afraid” or “What is
causing my anxiety” will lead you in the right
direction in finding the source of your fears. Give
it some time and eventually you will find the answers
your looking for.
Once you find the true source of your fears, the
next step is to find the solutions that will solve
your problem. With the help of a professional, write
down a list of possible techniques and solutions that
you think will manage your fear and anxieties. The
next step is to apply the techniques that you uncovered.
Here is a brief list of some techniques you can use
to help deal with your fears.
A good way to manage your worry is to challenge your
negative thinking with positive statements and realistic
thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your
fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking
yourself questions that will maintain objectivity
and common sense.
Be smart in how you deal with your fears and anxieties.
Do not try to tackle everything all at once. When
facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms
you with a lot of anxiety, break the task into a series
of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one
at a time will make the stress more manageable and
increases your chances of success.
Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying
about how you will get through the rest of the week
or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can
provide us with different opportunities to learn new
things and that includes learning how to deal with
your problems. When the time comes, hopefully you
will have learned the skills to deal with your situation.
Sometimes we encounter a scary situation that gets
us all upset. When encountering these events, always
remember to get all of the facts of the given situation.
Gathering the facts can prevent us from relying on
exaggerated and fearful assumptions. By focusing on
the facts, a person can rely on what is reality and
what is not.
In every anxiety-related situation you experience,
begin to learn what works, what doesn’t work,
and what you need to improve on in managing your fears
and anxieties. For instance, you have a lot of anxiety
and you decide to take a walk to help you feel better.
The next time you feel anxious you can remind yourself
that you got through it the last time by taking a
walk. This will give you the confidence to manage
your anxiety the next time around.
Many people try to get rid of their anxieties and
fears without taking into consideration why they are
afraid. The best way to get rid of your fears is to
find those techniques that will manage the true source
of your fears. If you can do this, then you should
be able to overcome your fears and anxieties.
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